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Choosing Life: The Crisis That Wasn't

*subhead*Life, Love and Joy.*subhead*
As the 40th anniversary of Roe vs. Wade dawns, my friends that have adopted children have been posting pictures on Facebook of their beautiful families and thanking the birth mothers for their courage and sacrifice. These adoptive mothers asked everyone to choose adoption over abortion. As I contemplated praising my friends for telling their story, I remembered I had a story to tell as well. I had forgotten.

This month, my husband and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. Our oldest daughter turned 17 a few months ago. You do the math.

Eighteen years ago, I was staring at two blue lines in the bathroom, and I felt my world crashing in around me. I was a senior in college, but, because of my year abroad, I had three semesters left before I could graduate. I had just received a grant for research in organic chemistry with toxic chemicals that no doubt would cause birth defects. My now husband was nowhere near graduating, and I feared my conservative Catholic family would never forgive me for getting pregnant out of wedlock.

It was the textbook definition of a crisis pregnancy. My situation was exactly the hard case that everyone talks about when they say they are "pro-choice." I could have been the poster child for Planned Parenthood.

It would have been so easy to make that appointment. My life could have continued on as it had before. My sin could have stayed hidden. No one except God would have had to know.

But I would have known. I would have known that it was my decision that ended my daughter's life. It would have been my decision that denied my husband the opportunity to be a father to her. I may have gone onto graduate school and done all the things that everyone expected of me without the "burden" of a child, but that decision would have destroyed my life. Knowing myself, I would never have been able to recover from the guilt. With my history of depression, I shudder to think what abortion would have done to my mental health. It would have been a crisis that never ended.

Instead, my husband and I chose life. My family fell in love with our daughter. My organic chemistry professor helped me with my research, minimizing my exposure. The rest of the faculty helped me juggled my schedule around. I graduated magna cum laude with the top chemistry award. I got a job days after I graduated at a prestigious medical school and I supported my new family while my husband finished school.

Today we have four beautiful children and a house full of love and laughter. All made possible by choosing life. My daughter is the apple of my eye with her contagious smile, her silly sense of humor and her gorgeous voice.

You might wonder how I could forget that I had a story to tell. It is because, nearly twenty years later, that crisis is no longer a crisis. It was crushed, then forgotten, under the weight of the love and joy that choosing life has brought to me.

So, like my friends who have asked all of their friends to choose life in the name of their adopted children, I ask all young women faced with the same situation that I faced to choose life. Choose life not just for your baby, but for yourself as well.

Rebecca Taylor blogs at Mary Meets Dolly

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7 comments:

priest's wife said...

beautiful! My parents were in a similar situation with my older sister (well....my mom wasn't a chemistry whiz & they weren't raised in any faith)...now they have 5 children all married to fellow Catholics and 20+ grandchildren!

KC said...

Beautifully written. Beautiful story.

Pattymelt said...

Thank you for choosing life! Thank you for writing about it....

Mary De Voe said...

God bless you Rebecca Taylor

Sophia's Favorite said...

Thanks for sharing your story.

But I'm pretty sure the textbook case Planned Parenthood would claim justified their existence and funding would be a 13-year-old raped by her own father—because that makes up such a large proportion of our unwed pregnancies. And as we all know, Planned Parenthood totally follows sex-abuse reporting laws.

Mary De Voe said...

"And as we all know, Planned Parenthood totally follows sex-abuse reporting laws." And as we all know, Planned Parenthood totally follows "the laws of nature and nature's God" Only for his own sins shall a man be punished. Killing an innocent for the crimes of his father is uncivilized, unnatural and unGodly. Divine Justice is perfect, the longer it takes, the finer it becomes. Herod rotted away before death, may have even got to heaven.

savetheunbornbabies prolife said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I have shared it with others.

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