I guess we shouldn't be shocked by this. A neighbor sent a letter to a family of a boy with autism recommending they euthanize him.
8/20/2013 09:06:00 AM
I honestly don't know who to feel sorrier for. The child needs prayers and has a wonderful Guardian Angel who is helping him along. The letter writer is someone almost indescribable. Coming from HuffPo, I don't know what to make of it. May God have mercy on us. Peace and God bless.
My fear is for this woman's children.There is your next generation!This is what they are taught!
Wow, it's impossible to understand this kind of vitriol. It makes my heart sink to realize there really are people this hateful.
This could be my daughter (who is autistic) this monster who calls herself a mother is describing. She is just another member of the pro-death culture we live in. Abby Johnson's recent blog post describes the pro-death supporters in the Texas legislature in this way, "their mind is no longer their own. Once evil breaks in, your thoughts, your words, and your behavior is not controlled by you." Evil has certainly taken over this person and is controlling them and so while this piece hurts me on a very personal level and, yes, makes me very angry, I know I must pray for her and her soul as well as for the boy she talks of and his family.
I have twin boys with autism. One of them just received an academic scholarship, and I'll be helping him move into his freshman year dorm this week. Autism and retardation are two different things, although sometimes they are found in tandem. I have often said that I've seen both the best in people and the worst in the last 18 years. I have met people like this letter-writer. They are simply selfish; not the worst. The worst are the folks that presume they understand the condition when they do not and in the name of faux compassion (combined with a moral superiority complex) presume to determine your kid's life for him/her. In any event, my last experience was this past Sunday at mass when a women came up to me following the "ita missa est" and told me how the interaction between one of my sons and me at mass "helped her see Christ." I told her she needed to talk to my son, since it was HIS apostolate she was witnessing, not mine.
I saw this letter over the weekend on an Aspergers Support page on facebook. Apparently, the police in that Canadian city are investigating the letter and they have not ruled out bringing charges against the writer. She's a coward desperately in need of prayer.
I hope this is fake for publicity. If it isn't this person is indescribably selfish and deserves to be investigated criminally. They were too weak to even put their name to it, and the kid with autism is worth a lot more than she is.
I'm surprised HuffyPoo would have this letter posted. I guess I always figured HP was in support of euthanizing and aborting disabilities...or whoever. Either way, my only question is to whether it is real. I only say that because it is soooo very insanely over the top, a person has a hard time thinking there are people this selfish, angry and emotionally unstable as to put this down on put this down on paper and leave it to a mother of a special needs kid. If real....yikes!
As a mother of one child with Asperger's and other children who have had a variety of physical and mental challenges over the years, this absolutely breaks my heart. There were times, years ago, before my son's diagnosis that I felt so tired and hopeless and totally wrung out, that a letter like that could have pushed me over the brink into total despair or suicide. Seriously. My son is doing well today - but if I had received a letter like that when he was 7 or 8, I might still be in a locked mental health facility in a totally catatonic state.
How bizarre/unhinged to you have to be to actually write and send something like that?
I choose to believe it is a hoax, because I refuse to believe that THAT level of evil has entered the world.
@Proteios1That's what was my first thought about HuffPo -then I read the comments. One of the most common remarks was (variations of) "If you want to find out who wrote the letter, just look for the yard with the Tea Party flag." Another was, "Too bad this was in Canada so the woman couldn't just stand her ground and shoot the kid." One commenter suggested Ann Romney wrote the letter. As if liberals were the ones sticking up for the sanctity of human life! As if Stand your Ground had ANYTHING to do with this! Yeah, and conservatives are totally good with euthanasia and killing children because of their physical flaws! None of it made any sense, but I guess I wasn't to surprised. But honestly, do they really not get this??I replied to waaay too many comments...Robyn
Here is a TV news article about this with a video interview with the mother. So sad. http://www.citynews.ca/2013/08/18/family-in-shock-after-hate-letter-targets-teen-with-autism/
My 9 yr. old has autism, his younger brother and sister are ADHD with autistic tendencies (yeah, it can get real complicated).We've gotten some "looks" over the years, thats as bad as it's been for us. Lots of support from folks, sometimes when our kids act up at Mass we'll have families make it a point to tell us to keep coming back!If I ever got a letter like that and found the author, one of us would need medical attention. Lots of it.
Amy Giglio... Thanks for the link to the city news video. It gave me "relief." The police are looking for this woman and the family will press charges when she's found. The best part is that the "community" this woman claimed to be speaking for was also up in arms and banded together to support the family and 13 year old "Max." It was heartwarming... God brought about good from a malevolent act.
I wonder why, if this woman was so sure that the whole neighborhood thought as she did (and just didn't have the guts to communicate those thoughts), she didn't sign her name. Margaret Sanger would be so proud. I have no trouble believing this to be true (not a hoax). She isn't the first human being to think this way or to communicate the evil that has obviously taken over her heart and soul. I ache for the grandmother and the parents of that boy, as I do for him. I also pity the children of the heartless b**** who wrote that letter.
..On Dateline NBC a few years ago, they showed a case where the police were investigating similar notes being received by a teacher at a school (and the notes were designed to look as of they were sent by another teacher). It was later found that the 'taunted and tortured teacher' had actually sent the notes to herself as a cry for attention and public sympathy due to feeling overwhelmed with her life (and no other 'teacher' or 'outsider' had sent it to her).Also, a couple of years ago a man claimed that he began to receive 'religious hate mail' our of nowhere from “an unknown neighbor" (even though there was no history of any of the neighbors having harassed, disliked or shown bigotry or hatred toward his family before) andwithin a few weeks his wife ended up "attacked by an unknown stranger, possibly the "neighbor", and killed".It was later found that he felt his wife was a "burden"and had composed and sent "the mysterious letters"himself as a set up and cover for the crime he was planning in order to "set himself free" from someonethat 'he' (not his neighbors) saw as a "burden" in life.In both cases, entire innocent-communities (even if it were seen as just 'one' phantom-person within that community) were placed with suspicion and blame for something that they did not do and would never have even thought of doing -- simply because someone who felt they wanted to 'escape' their own "burdens" in life were setting up both the communities and the family member from whom they wanted to be set free.In addition, there have been story after story of late of the many parents and caregivers of autistic children who -- feeling overwhelmed with taking care of a person with severe needs and yet also wanting to gain public attention, pity, sympathy, support, and a type of victim and/or hero status -- have plotted for weeks, months and even years to 'get free of their burden' in such as way as to look both innocent and pitiable (and this is often done by pointing-the-finger at innocent-strangers).My point is that -- UNTIL the police investigate to see IF this "mysterious note" is actually LEGITIMATE -- this community should NOT be seen as having some sort of hate-monger living in it's midst.This 'mysterious note' seems to have a far "too personal"touch to it to have been composed by any 'man' and / or even by 'woman' who would have been a 'stranger' or a 'near stranger' to this family -- and, until it is PROVEN that it IS IN FACT from "someone in the neighborhood",it seems unreasonable to assume that the neighbors are not (possibly) being set-up just so that someone who may feel overwhelmed with life can literally 'script' a situation in which to garner both pity and attention.It's not that I'm not trying to be 'sympathetic' toward the family to whom the memo was directed ... it's just that ... the situation of "setting things up in order to get public sympathy and attention" has been found to have occurred so frequently in the past number of years that -- unless someone has a video of a situation occurring -- many times it should be considered as possibly "one of the usual suspects".http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/munchaus.htm http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing http://www.salon.com/2008/06/04/exhausted_caregiver/http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/08/20/letter-telling-ontario-family-to-euthanize-autistic-son-not-a-hate-crime-police/http://www.post-journal.com/page/content.detail/id/609417/When-Feeling-Overwhelmed--Caregivers-Should-Seek-Help.html?nav=5208.